Monday, November 9, 2015
I'm certain as fatherhood is newly upon us there will be many new terms entering my world. One word that's new to me in 2015 is Babymoon. At first I thought the term was for couples who are going on trip to try to get pregnant, which wasn't relevant for us. I was mistaken. A babymoon is a romantic vacation taken by parents-to-be before their baby is born...or in our case before our babies are born! We weren't thinking about a babymoon when we booked our trip, but we embraced the babymoon spirit while we were on our trip.
Some notable moments:
First, the hotel discovered we were having twins and had champagne and cake and a "happy babymoon" note waiting for us in our room.
Second, while in the towns we were asked on three different (unrelated) situations if we were brothers. I know the strangers asking the question are simply trying to connect with us and they mean no harm, but asking if we're brothers pisses me off enormously. I usually snapped back by alerting the stranger that we're married. I tried to handle the situation with empathy, but a hetero couple would never get that question, which is why it makes me cranky. Can you imagine my brother and his wife entering a gallery and the owner asking if they are brother and sister? I cannot.
One gallery owner felt bad after asking the question, she offered us a 20% discount on her art. Of course, 20% off art doesn't do much to move the needle on the price closer to affordability. Still, I accepted the offer as a token of goodwill and thanked her.
Third, one morning while we were walking on the beach we ran into a mother of two-year-old identical twin boys. We informed her we are pregnant with twins too! I asked her if she had any advice. The one comment she stated is that the first year is terrible, but it also becomes a blur so you don't really remember it. The mother told us how much more fun she's having now that her boys are two. This advice is similar to my friend (and mother of a singleton and twins) Jenna gave us...the key with twins is to survive the first two years. Jenna informed us that twins have a built in playmate - so they entertain themselves. It makes it easier after the first two years.
Finally, after the desk agent checking us into our island hopping flight found out we were married, she asked if we were on our honeymoon; we informed her we're on our babymoon! She got super excited and she hugged my husband and high-fived me. She encouraged us to move to the island to raise our sons. It was beautiful.